Dear Cozy,
If life gives you lemons, ask for salt and vinegar.
Break ups should be indications for electro convulsive therapy just so one can have amnesia and never remember.
It takes courage to break up. It takes courage to take a break up without going crazy and it takes courage to move on and not take the tiniest glance back.
Your mother was a serial heartbreaker. My motto, ” break it up before it breaks you”. I wanted to be the one doing the breakups, thinking it would hurt less. It worked at first but it came at a price. I found commitment a difficult word.
Even with your father, I almost pushed him away too. Don’t be like me. You’re not a Yoruba demon.
When you intend breaking up with anyone though, never go into it thinking it will hurt the other person more and don’t think you are the only victim either.
Don’t elongate and drag it on and don’t drop it like a bomb.
Tease it out. Be nice.
Love, Mum.
Just a Little More…
1. If you’ve never experienced a breakup, hug yourself and thank God and your stars. You’ve been spared pain and lingering memories. Even mutual breakups hurt. In fact, I think they hurt more. Two people who can mutually agree to go their separate ways are more in sync than you think.
2. Breakups should never be a ‘get back at him/her’ or ‘make him/her hurt’ strategy. It’s not right. Do it right… If you ever have to.
