Dear Cozy,
If life gives you lemons, ask for salt and vinegar.
The male species have a big problem. They have little idea how to handle the female species. It is almost like a permanent mutation in their DNA.
Once upon a time, asking a lady to date you was as much a big deal as asking her to marry you. Those were the days when no guy just asked, any lady, anyhow, to start going out with him. In fact in some cases, the guy had to speak with the lady’s father/parents/family first.
These days though, it is as easy as calling the sachet water seller on the road while caught in Lagos traffic. Nothing special. No biggie. Shooting my shot whether it misfires or not.
Cozy, you are now 15 years old, I don’t expect you to get married now. In fact, I don’t think it is something you should be considering yet.
Yet, I have to tell you now, you don’t just ask anybody. That is not the way. Be sure you are ready to go all the way… No, not sex, naughty fellow.
I mean be ready to be dedicated to the lady. It does not mean you would marry her ( other factors come in along the way). But if you don’t see the possibility of a future with her, please let her be.
Saves you both a lot of stress and saves me a lot of stress, thank you.
Love, Mum.
Just a Little More…
1. I have seen and heard many jokes about how women are so complex and understanding them is near impossible. There might be some truth in that. But, something else it is causing is that tendency for guys to quickly tag issues as being as a result of the woman’s ‘complexity’. Some guys have totally synced their brains to this belief that they make no effort whatsoever to understand women. Sad.
2. I’m not asking for drama and charades before a lady is asked out. All I ask for is deep thinking and careful consideration of the step about to be taken. Why are you about to ask her out? Would you see it through? What if I find someone taller or finer or richer? This wild range shooting of shots is getting out of hand, really.
